Samuel Johnson called second marriages "the triumph of hope over experience", and I think were he to join me for a week of weddings, he'd double down on that. This past week saw several return Marriage Factory customers, including one couple who'd had 5 previous swings and misses between them. If there's one thing marriage teaches, it's that everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes the marriage is that mistake.
It would seem that being married before affects the chances of success, but luckily, my personal experience belies that. My mother stayed married to my stepfather from 1981 until she passed away. I have relatives and friends in very happy second or even third marriages. I am married to someone who has been married once before. We have been married almost 15 years, so it seems to have taken. Since America is the land of reinvention, why shouldn't that apply to weddings?
Fashion report
It was all about tiger print this week, with one bride in tiger-print heels and another in a tiger-print blouse. The winner was my final couple, with guests dressed in flowing multicolored saris and the bride in a black gown with gold detailing and beads.
By the numbers
Ceremonies: 10
Formal wear: 8
Couple who had a large crowd at their confidential wedding: 1
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Some Dudes Marry Other Dudes And My Mom's Cool With That
Original post date: October 6, 2013
Some dudes marry other dudes. Get over it.
So read the T-shirt of one witness for a same-sex male couple. Indeed they do, in California and a growing list of other states and countries. Some chicks marry other chicks, too. And I help them get it done. This week's couples included a double wedding, two pairs of women who'd been together almost 35 years and had all known each other even longer.
When I told my mother I wanted to start doing weddings to help same-sex couples get the same rights I had, she told me that I had confirmed what a good mother she was (just like Miss Janet!). After all, if I cared so much about justice, she must have instilled that in me. She was right.
You can imagine how devastated she was when Proposition 8 passed in 2008. One of the main reasons for my enrollment at the Hall was gone, as was the image of the progressive nature of California. She monitored the frustratingly slow pace of the challenges to both Prop 8 and DOMA. She called me in jubilant voice when the Supreme Court issued its rulings overturning both, so happy about something that didn't directly affect her. That's my mom.
Some dudes marry other dudes. I make sure that happens. 'Cause my mama raised me right.
Some dudes marry other dudes. Get over it.
So read the T-shirt of one witness for a same-sex male couple. Indeed they do, in California and a growing list of other states and countries. Some chicks marry other chicks, too. And I help them get it done. This week's couples included a double wedding, two pairs of women who'd been together almost 35 years and had all known each other even longer.
When I told my mother I wanted to start doing weddings to help same-sex couples get the same rights I had, she told me that I had confirmed what a good mother she was (just like Miss Janet!). After all, if I cared so much about justice, she must have instilled that in me. She was right.
You can imagine how devastated she was when Proposition 8 passed in 2008. One of the main reasons for my enrollment at the Hall was gone, as was the image of the progressive nature of California. She monitored the frustratingly slow pace of the challenges to both Prop 8 and DOMA. She called me in jubilant voice when the Supreme Court issued its rulings overturning both, so happy about something that didn't directly affect her. That's my mom.
Some dudes marry other dudes. I make sure that happens. 'Cause my mama raised me right.
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